Karl, I'm sorry that the problem involved someone you considered a friend. That always makes the situation worse. ~ I must tell you this brief story which probably has a parallel in many of our lives. Noah, the guy who mows my lawn, told me that, when he was in school many years ago, some kid pulled the chair out from under him and he (Noah) fell on the floor. I imagine that all of the kids laughed. Noah NEVER forgot that. When he went to his Reunion many years after this incident, he sought out the guy that pulled the chair out from under him -- just to talk about what had happened. And guess what? The guy didn't even remember what Noah was talking about !!!!! So, for all these years, Noah had carried this hurt and resentment around with him over this incident . . . but the other guy had gone on with his life oblivious to the hurt he had caused. Ay, ay, ay! Something similar happened to me but on a deeper and more serious level. Being human, we get hurt and hold on to whatever caused it. It's hard to let go sometimes. Unfortunately, we, the victim, get double-duty. We have to deal with the hurt, allow time to heal the wound, and maybe possibly think about at least wanting to forgive the other person eventually. Otherwise, it can eat at us and bring negativity and darkness into our thinking. It all falls on us, doesn't it? It doesn't seem fair at all. But it's just the nature of human relationships. They don't all work out like we would hope. Not preaching, of course!! I still struggle with this myself. 