subject my dad's eulogy from jan 20 1978 written and given by a very young John Grisham
FUNERAL SERVICE
[size=2]ROBERT ROGERS [/size]
Call to Worship:
Jesus said:
"I am the resurrection and the life. If anyone believes in me,
even though he die, he will live, and whoever lives and believes
in me will never die.
Come to me, all you who labor and are over burdened, and I
will give you rest."
Prayer:
Eternal God, guardian of our lives: we confess that we are children of dust,
unworthy of your gracious care. We have not loved as we ought to love, nor
have we lived as you command, and our years are soon gone by. Lord God
have mercy upon us and raise us to new life, so that as long as we live we
may serve you, until when dying we enter into the joy of your presence.
Almighty God, whose love never fails, and who can turn the shadow of death
into daybreak: help us to receive your word with believing hearts, so that
hearing the promises that are found in Scripture we may have hope and be
lifted out of darkness into light.
Scripture:
Psalm 8:
Funeral Meditation:
Scripture:
Romans Ch. 8
Prayer:
o God, before whom generations rise and pass away: we praise you for all
your servants who, having lived this life in faith, now live eternally with you.
Especially we thank you for your servant, Robert Rogers, for the gift of hislife, for the grace you have given him, fo~ all in him that was good and kind and
faithful. We thank you that for him death is past, and pain is ended, and he has
entered the joy you have prepared; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Benediction:
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I
give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship
of the Holy Spirit, be with you all. Amen.
ROBERT L. ROGERS
1921 ~ 1978
Billions and billions of years ago
Long before any creatures roamed this planet
Long before there was a planet earth,
A great and awesome heart beat pulsed the universe
and with power and care formed the massive stars and the planets.
Even this wondrouse planet with all of its life given resources
,and in love the Creator formed the greatest miracle of all.
How or precisely when we do not know -but
His miracle was a creature that stood erect
and spoke a language A
'creature capable of receiving God's love
and passing it on.
The Creator looked at what he had made and said, "that's good".
And in love he continued to surge up in new creatures
each one unique and special, each one no less a miracle from the other.
In the midst of the joy of God's creating activity throughout these billions
of years, one child appeared, born December 4, 1921 -a new miracle -a new cr.eation
-and at the moment of his birth it was almost as though all of the meaning
and beauty of the universe had come to focus in this, the son of Walter Leo and
Mary Paver Rogers. No doubt the news spread quickly among the residents of the
Village by the river scattered in their homes along Winfield Road and Aurora Road
and Jackson and Main and First. A baby boy was the news -for the Pavers and
Rogers. A "baby boy" was the word through the village at the evening meal that
day of Staffords and Andersons and Fredericks and Mannings and Mounts and folks new
to town like the Conklins. And so this boy child was born into a family and community
and grounded in a place and his life was to be that community and its life
was to be his.
If December 1921 brought joy, so the spring of 1922 brought double grief to
the village by the river, as within hours of each other, Mary Paver and her
neighbor up the road, Arline Triplett, were stricken -each leaving infant sons
behind. The grief must have been immense for the 400 or so residents of our
village and it carried its dead to join the others who had found their final resting
place in the Warrenville Cemetery.
Robert Rogers was cared for by his grandmother, Mary Paver, in the Paver
home at Jackson and Fourth Street, just across from the old Baptist Parsonage.
There the men of his life were named Ed and Howard and Chuck, and, of course,
Esther was there too before she and Chuck finished their new house over on the
Steadman place in '28. Sometimes as a small boy he would ride in the mail truck
with Chuck as he made his daily Naperville route, and he would later join the Fire
Department, when Chuck was fire chief. Money was scarce -but that need not be a
problem for a boy in a small town -there was always plenty to do. Sometimes he
would pick up and deliver laundry for his grandmother in his little red wagon.
But to speak of his life is to speak of his town as he watched and observed
and helped -known by all -knowing everyone.
He watched as they replaced the steel bridge over near Adam Emory Albright's
house with concrete and paved the road from Rt. 59 to Naperville in '25.
And was there as they paved Batavia Road in '26.
He watched as the crews knocked out a basement wall and began to excavate with
horses and a scoop digging the basement under the old Baptist Church -walking
the horses clear back under the church to drag out the dirt.
-2
He began school with Dick Anderson and John Mack'and Bill Stafford and
the other children of Warrenville at the four room Holmes School up by the track.
From there he no doubt watched the Bank and the IGA grocery burn in '32
And personally supervised the work crews as they labored at Community Buildingbeing built as a WPA project just across the street.
And, of course, he watched as the old Baptist Church burned on December 19,
1935 -helplessly as the landmark when he attended Sunday School Classes
taught by Harriet Conklin, went up in smoke because there was no Warrenville
Fire Department.
As a resident of this village by the river, it was natural that this child
of the '20s be drawn to the river and it was there that he could often be found who
could ever know where he might be or what he might be doing in the river,
from the bluffs above Triplett farm, to Triplett farm, to Graveling Point near
the old mill, down to Indian Head. Those were the places he swam and fished and
trapped for muskrat and mink. Diving down in the deepest hple in the river in
summer, ice skating in the winter, riding ice cakes down stream after the spring
thaw, fishing and swimming in the summer, and setting traps along the river's
edge in the fall -a financially lucrative venture that required setting traps
each morning before dawn and then checking the traps each evening after school.
An enterprise that his grandmother Mary did not always encourage because she felt
the growing school boy instead needed her help.
But who can circumvent the enthusiasm of a boy? At night before going to
sleep he would dangle a string tied to his wrist from the second story window
that Lloyd Mack who apparently had less difficulty waking might give it a tug
and that the two might be off and away to the river in the pre-dawn hours.
He attended Wheaton Central High School, as did all of the sons and daughters
of Warrenville, the village by the DuPage in those days. Riding the train, catching
a ride with friends or walking and jogging along the fields and estates toward
Wheaton. If the river was the place he could be found as a boy, the athletic
field was where he could be found as a young man-basketball, track and baseball ah
yes, baseball, and the Warrenville Cyclones and the dream of every boy. A sort
of rite of manhood as every boy from the village by the river sought to win a
starting position on the team -In those pre-war years his was third base as "they
played across from the Cenacle and later on a field on Rogers Street east of
Warren and finally at the V.F.W.
Strong, swift, daring, known by all and friend of all -there is more to be
said of childhood and youth I save those stories for you to tell each other.
During his senior year in High School Swede Rogers -so called because there
were too many "Roberts" and because he lived with his maternal grandmother -met
June Holm and set about to win her heart -the one who would love him and endure
greatly with him. They were married in 1944, the year he joined the Warrenville
Fire Department. They lived for 3 years with Vic Fletcher in his house just two
doors south of the old Paver place. It was to that house that June brought Denny
horne from the hospital. As a fireman his reputation was that of a smoke eater strong
and able and willing, the same characteristics that no doubt gave him the
ability to live when others would have sooner chosen to die.
-3
We smile to think of how he talked June into the idea of borrowing the
incredible sum of $3,500 and he set about to build a house for his family on
Rogers Street when there were few houses and no trees down that "lay -a home for
his growing family, soon to include Jane and Rob. He worked hard as a,carpenter,
he enj'oyed being with his friends -perhaps to a fault-and lived life vigorously.
Then on July 20, 1957 tragedy. His strong body immobilized by a broken neck
suffered in a swimming accident -the reasons why no longer matter, but his life
and testimony to us does. And somehow it is there that we must now turn.
The weeks and months that followed the summer of 1957 were a literal hell
for Swede Rogers and the members of his family -touch and go from moment to moment
with physical disfigurement and incredible human pain. There was no explanation as
to why life should continue or how or why it could continue. But life did continue
Because the will for life was there
and because of immense love and sacrifice on the part of June
and because of a ground swell of love to concern to help from the community
as Warrenville wept and prayed and became present with physical expressionsof concern. Storm windows and paint, groceries and household goods, nursing
care and medical attention and'emotional and spirited support. Mrs. Lesh as
she baked a birthday cake each year for 20 years (her own son an invalid for
10 years -also from a broken neck). Mrs. Ruby Huebner as she stopped and
fed him sweet rolls and donuts, and countless others. There is no reason that
Swede could have lived these years except for those -and so that he might
witness to us about life and its meaning as he
1.
Never complained.
2.
As he cheered for others -and was deeply sensitive to the hurts and
tragedies and pains of others -reminding us who live that adversity can
harden and fill us with hate or it can find us with sympathy and understanding
and love.
3.
As he never wavered in his trust in a loving God. Know that God has not
promised us that life will be easy -promising instead his presence and
strength when life is impossible.
4.
As he taught us by these three that the quality of life is not to be
determined by success or beauty or fame or by having arms and legs that
work. The quality of life has something instead to do with love and faith
and charity -the kind of things that come from our hearts.
5.
As few persons ever left his bedside without the feeling that they themselves
had been visited -and they themselves healed.
Last Friday Swede Rogers passed into eternity like a mountain stream that
finally has reached the ocean. Perhaps the most fitting memorial to his life would
be that we might be sensitive of the pain of others because he was sensitive to our
pain. That we might refuse to complain and engage in the unproductive enterpriseof "awfulling" because he refused to do so. That we might seek out and draw uponthe love of God for the living of life.
Now Swede is gone from this earth and is received by God's love in a way we
simply do not understand, even though his body simply could not go on any more it
still hurts to say goodbye. Tears are appropriate now and in the days to come,
for we do not lightly let go of someone for whom we cared so much. lilesorrow
not because we lake faith -but because God made us to care so much .
.
Swede now takes his place in history as one who was beautiful. And the God
Almighty who called him into being and sustained him now receives his life as totallyworth while, complete and acceptable in his sight. His love now gathers him up in
ways none of us know fully.
May
we also be opened to this vast ocean of love as we live and he did.
[size=2]ROBERT ROGERS [/size]
Call to Worship:
Jesus said:
"I am the resurrection and the life. If anyone believes in me,
even though he die, he will live, and whoever lives and believes
in me will never die.
Come to me, all you who labor and are over burdened, and I
will give you rest."
Prayer:
Eternal God, guardian of our lives: we confess that we are children of dust,
unworthy of your gracious care. We have not loved as we ought to love, nor
have we lived as you command, and our years are soon gone by. Lord God
have mercy upon us and raise us to new life, so that as long as we live we
may serve you, until when dying we enter into the joy of your presence.
Almighty God, whose love never fails, and who can turn the shadow of death
into daybreak: help us to receive your word with believing hearts, so that
hearing the promises that are found in Scripture we may have hope and be
lifted out of darkness into light.
Scripture:
Psalm 8:
Funeral Meditation:
Scripture:
Romans Ch. 8
Prayer:
o God, before whom generations rise and pass away: we praise you for all
your servants who, having lived this life in faith, now live eternally with you.
Especially we thank you for your servant, Robert Rogers, for the gift of hislife, for the grace you have given him, fo~ all in him that was good and kind and
faithful. We thank you that for him death is past, and pain is ended, and he has
entered the joy you have prepared; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Benediction:
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I
give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship
of the Holy Spirit, be with you all. Amen.
ROBERT L. ROGERS
1921 ~ 1978
Billions and billions of years ago
Long before any creatures roamed this planet
Long before there was a planet earth,
A great and awesome heart beat pulsed the universe
and with power and care formed the massive stars and the planets.
Even this wondrouse planet with all of its life given resources
,and in love the Creator formed the greatest miracle of all.
How or precisely when we do not know -but
His miracle was a creature that stood erect
and spoke a language A
'creature capable of receiving God's love
and passing it on.
The Creator looked at what he had made and said, "that's good".
And in love he continued to surge up in new creatures
each one unique and special, each one no less a miracle from the other.
In the midst of the joy of God's creating activity throughout these billions
of years, one child appeared, born December 4, 1921 -a new miracle -a new cr.eation
-and at the moment of his birth it was almost as though all of the meaning
and beauty of the universe had come to focus in this, the son of Walter Leo and
Mary Paver Rogers. No doubt the news spread quickly among the residents of the
Village by the river scattered in their homes along Winfield Road and Aurora Road
and Jackson and Main and First. A baby boy was the news -for the Pavers and
Rogers. A "baby boy" was the word through the village at the evening meal that
day of Staffords and Andersons and Fredericks and Mannings and Mounts and folks new
to town like the Conklins. And so this boy child was born into a family and community
and grounded in a place and his life was to be that community and its life
was to be his.
If December 1921 brought joy, so the spring of 1922 brought double grief to
the village by the river, as within hours of each other, Mary Paver and her
neighbor up the road, Arline Triplett, were stricken -each leaving infant sons
behind. The grief must have been immense for the 400 or so residents of our
village and it carried its dead to join the others who had found their final resting
place in the Warrenville Cemetery.
Robert Rogers was cared for by his grandmother, Mary Paver, in the Paver
home at Jackson and Fourth Street, just across from the old Baptist Parsonage.
There the men of his life were named Ed and Howard and Chuck, and, of course,
Esther was there too before she and Chuck finished their new house over on the
Steadman place in '28. Sometimes as a small boy he would ride in the mail truck
with Chuck as he made his daily Naperville route, and he would later join the Fire
Department, when Chuck was fire chief. Money was scarce -but that need not be a
problem for a boy in a small town -there was always plenty to do. Sometimes he
would pick up and deliver laundry for his grandmother in his little red wagon.
But to speak of his life is to speak of his town as he watched and observed
and helped -known by all -knowing everyone.
He watched as they replaced the steel bridge over near Adam Emory Albright's
house with concrete and paved the road from Rt. 59 to Naperville in '25.
And was there as they paved Batavia Road in '26.
He watched as the crews knocked out a basement wall and began to excavate with
horses and a scoop digging the basement under the old Baptist Church -walking
the horses clear back under the church to drag out the dirt.
-2
He began school with Dick Anderson and John Mack'and Bill Stafford and
the other children of Warrenville at the four room Holmes School up by the track.
From there he no doubt watched the Bank and the IGA grocery burn in '32
And personally supervised the work crews as they labored at Community Buildingbeing built as a WPA project just across the street.
And, of course, he watched as the old Baptist Church burned on December 19,
1935 -helplessly as the landmark when he attended Sunday School Classes
taught by Harriet Conklin, went up in smoke because there was no Warrenville
Fire Department.
As a resident of this village by the river, it was natural that this child
of the '20s be drawn to the river and it was there that he could often be found who
could ever know where he might be or what he might be doing in the river,
from the bluffs above Triplett farm, to Triplett farm, to Graveling Point near
the old mill, down to Indian Head. Those were the places he swam and fished and
trapped for muskrat and mink. Diving down in the deepest hple in the river in
summer, ice skating in the winter, riding ice cakes down stream after the spring
thaw, fishing and swimming in the summer, and setting traps along the river's
edge in the fall -a financially lucrative venture that required setting traps
each morning before dawn and then checking the traps each evening after school.
An enterprise that his grandmother Mary did not always encourage because she felt
the growing school boy instead needed her help.
But who can circumvent the enthusiasm of a boy? At night before going to
sleep he would dangle a string tied to his wrist from the second story window
that Lloyd Mack who apparently had less difficulty waking might give it a tug
and that the two might be off and away to the river in the pre-dawn hours.
He attended Wheaton Central High School, as did all of the sons and daughters
of Warrenville, the village by the DuPage in those days. Riding the train, catching
a ride with friends or walking and jogging along the fields and estates toward
Wheaton. If the river was the place he could be found as a boy, the athletic
field was where he could be found as a young man-basketball, track and baseball ah
yes, baseball, and the Warrenville Cyclones and the dream of every boy. A sort
of rite of manhood as every boy from the village by the river sought to win a
starting position on the team -In those pre-war years his was third base as "they
played across from the Cenacle and later on a field on Rogers Street east of
Warren and finally at the V.F.W.
Strong, swift, daring, known by all and friend of all -there is more to be
said of childhood and youth I save those stories for you to tell each other.
During his senior year in High School Swede Rogers -so called because there
were too many "Roberts" and because he lived with his maternal grandmother -met
June Holm and set about to win her heart -the one who would love him and endure
greatly with him. They were married in 1944, the year he joined the Warrenville
Fire Department. They lived for 3 years with Vic Fletcher in his house just two
doors south of the old Paver place. It was to that house that June brought Denny
horne from the hospital. As a fireman his reputation was that of a smoke eater strong
and able and willing, the same characteristics that no doubt gave him the
ability to live when others would have sooner chosen to die.
-3
We smile to think of how he talked June into the idea of borrowing the
incredible sum of $3,500 and he set about to build a house for his family on
Rogers Street when there were few houses and no trees down that "lay -a home for
his growing family, soon to include Jane and Rob. He worked hard as a,carpenter,
he enj'oyed being with his friends -perhaps to a fault-and lived life vigorously.
Then on July 20, 1957 tragedy. His strong body immobilized by a broken neck
suffered in a swimming accident -the reasons why no longer matter, but his life
and testimony to us does. And somehow it is there that we must now turn.
The weeks and months that followed the summer of 1957 were a literal hell
for Swede Rogers and the members of his family -touch and go from moment to moment
with physical disfigurement and incredible human pain. There was no explanation as
to why life should continue or how or why it could continue. But life did continue
Because the will for life was there
and because of immense love and sacrifice on the part of June
and because of a ground swell of love to concern to help from the community
as Warrenville wept and prayed and became present with physical expressionsof concern. Storm windows and paint, groceries and household goods, nursing
care and medical attention and'emotional and spirited support. Mrs. Lesh as
she baked a birthday cake each year for 20 years (her own son an invalid for
10 years -also from a broken neck). Mrs. Ruby Huebner as she stopped and
fed him sweet rolls and donuts, and countless others. There is no reason that
Swede could have lived these years except for those -and so that he might
witness to us about life and its meaning as he
1.
Never complained.
2.
As he cheered for others -and was deeply sensitive to the hurts and
tragedies and pains of others -reminding us who live that adversity can
harden and fill us with hate or it can find us with sympathy and understanding
and love.
3.
As he never wavered in his trust in a loving God. Know that God has not
promised us that life will be easy -promising instead his presence and
strength when life is impossible.
4.
As he taught us by these three that the quality of life is not to be
determined by success or beauty or fame or by having arms and legs that
work. The quality of life has something instead to do with love and faith
and charity -the kind of things that come from our hearts.
5.
As few persons ever left his bedside without the feeling that they themselves
had been visited -and they themselves healed.
Last Friday Swede Rogers passed into eternity like a mountain stream that
finally has reached the ocean. Perhaps the most fitting memorial to his life would
be that we might be sensitive of the pain of others because he was sensitive to our
pain. That we might refuse to complain and engage in the unproductive enterpriseof "awfulling" because he refused to do so. That we might seek out and draw uponthe love of God for the living of life.
Now Swede is gone from this earth and is received by God's love in a way we
simply do not understand, even though his body simply could not go on any more it
still hurts to say goodbye. Tears are appropriate now and in the days to come,
for we do not lightly let go of someone for whom we cared so much. lilesorrow
not because we lake faith -but because God made us to care so much .
.
Swede now takes his place in history as one who was beautiful. And the God
Almighty who called him into being and sustained him now receives his life as totallyworth while, complete and acceptable in his sight. His love now gathers him up in
ways none of us know fully.
May
we also be opened to this vast ocean of love as we live and he did.